I did everything society said to be happy. I got the degrees: BA, a Montessori degree, and an MA. I married the “right” men who could “give me respect and boost my confidence.” First an attorney. Had one daughter. The marriage ended after seven years because of his affairs. Eight years later, my second husband was a cardiologist from Virginia. We had a bi-coastal, whirlwind coke-induced love affair for eighteen months. The marriage lasted six months. I did things I thought might help society. I sent women to London for abortions before Roe v. Wade. I was active in the peace movement to stop the Vietnam War. I started NORML (the National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws) with my first husband. I had the right jobs: I wrote and produced for PBS. I won numerous awards. I wrote screenplays to shine the light on inequities. None of this alleviated my pain, shame and suffering from the childhood beatings and sexual abuse that led to my self-abuse. My healing journey began with Shhhh!
I have lived in Venice Beach, CA., just steps to the sand, for eighteen years. I’m a grandmother of two loving, beautiful, half Chinese boys. I just had a portion of a short story published in a new LA literary journal, FRE&D. Currently, I’m working on my next book, “Mother NORML”. For those who wish to clean out their pain and shame please join me in my weekly webinar, Skype to Write. I have been on a spiritual journey for the last thirty-one years and it’s been great. I have become the me I came here to be! To help you do so go to my Resources for You tab.